There are lots of things that you can do in 15 minutes. Watch half an episode of Sex and the City. Cook rice. Lots of other pretty average things. But, it turns out that’s also all the time it takes to improve your relationship, which we think is a much better use of time! You’ve probably heard about the importance of foreplay (and it is important!), but it turns out that ‘afterplay’ appears to be getting overlooked; and it’s a shame, because it can work wonders for your sex life! [http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2014/05/28/how-to-improve-sex-life-post-coital-cuddle-partner_n_5402534.html?utm_hp_ref=uk-dating-and-relationships ]
We all know that a good cuddle can improve your mood; but it turns out it can also improve your sex life. Amy Muise, a researcher at the University Of Toronto, surveyed 335 people and then studied 101 couples for 21 days to investigate the effects of after-sex behaviour in monogamous romantic relationships. She wanted to find out the relationship between post-sex affectionate behaviour (e.g. kissing, affectionate touch and talk) and sexual and relationship satisfaction.
The findings of this research revealed that couples who tend to be affectionate for at least 15 minutes after sex reported feeling more satisfied with both their sex lives and their relationship with their partner. Now what’s even better is that it lasts, as the couples that took part still felt higher levels of satisfaction with their sex lives and relationships in a follow-up survey three months later. Considering this is such an easy – not to mention enjoyable approach to add more satisfaction into a relationship, it really is worth the extra time!
So, whilst we may tend to focus on foreplay and the act of intercourse itself – what Muise found is that affectionate post-sex, such as kissing, cuddling and talking intimately, can keep the glow going long after you get out of bed. In addition these gestures were shown to have more of an effect on a relationship than the number of times a couple slept together, so it’s definitely a case of quality not quantity!
And the same is true if you’re engaging in some ‘you’ time. After masturbating make sure to take some time to relax, and enjoy your most important relationship – the one with yourself! After all, what better way is there to spend 15 minutes?
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